The reason I must address feelings of loneliness is because the more right I do in my life, the more I lose some of the people I care(d) about the most. These feelings create energy that can be utilized to create a life of abundance. Being alone and feeling alone can be a horrible place to be, but doesn’t have to.
Learning to manage these thoughts and the associated feelings is an important skill that takes diligence and practice. Some of the tools I use are my 5 Hacks to Change Your Thinking. It is something we cannot be perfect at and requires learning to love yourself. It can help to have someone coach you through dealing with the feelings and transmuting this energy into any life you desire.
The first place my rambling mind wants to go is to play the victim role. I had to learn to deal with loneliness in a very painful way. The bottom line is that if you are not acting as a co-creator in my life, I make a choice not to have you in my life. This happens to cut many out of my life. This first started while living back home in Orange County. I had all sorts of toxic relationships. This is why I moved my family to Texas. I had to reset from family and friends just the same. I had to go to where I didn’t know anyone. I thought that somehow I could isolate myself from drugs, family, and friends. There were a lot of issues from these areas which were not good for me.
After moving to Texas, I felt life was not anywhere close to where it ought to be. I ended up using again after about a year. My using only lasted a few months, but when I learned of my wife’s affair, I was done with living this way and there was nothing I would not do to create the life I knew I deserved. To this day I push and push to have the life I deserve. I am on a mission to be of service to as many people as possible and living a passionate life.
So after I started my current trajectory into God’s infinite universe, I realized that part of my problem was the toxic marriage I was in. I then started the painful divorce process. The emotional and financial negative energy this causes is significant, but this is energy that can be harnessed to create miracles. My divorce was the best thing ever to happen to me. This was because this energy was redirected and transmuted into creating.
I have cleaned out many people in my life, so I am not around many people like I was prior. Here is what my inner critic tells me.
I do not have a best friend like I did.
I do not see my kids every day.
I am alone.
I am sad.
From my perspective, I must challenge my belief systems. Was my wife my best friend that I would want today? No. I do not believe we were friends to each other. Do I need to see my kids every day? No. Today I am able to affect their lives in profound ways that require a fraction of the time I used to spend with them. The net terms of all this are that it doesn’t really matter. I am creating a better life for my sons and I in profound ways in less time. That is a miracle.
Now it is not possible from my perspective to be mirror perfect nor to completely avoid the associated negative feelings. I have learned that I must shift my perspective, but if those feelings present themselves, I simply observe them and ask myself what I will create. It is this very article that is being written that was created from loneliness. It is my hope that this negative energy which fueled the creation of this article into something positive. This will hopefully help someone do the same thing and building on each others creating energy.
The irony in this is that I am not lonely at all. It is a state of mind. I might have been by myself most of the day, but I was of service today with the work I do. I had an awesome coaching session with a business coach who is helping me become better and guiding a brand new path. I ended the night going to dinner with a dear friend. I have a few amazing people in my life who are helping propel me into God infinite universe. I could identify with those incoming negative thoughts, but I have learned with a practice that my perspective would be off and it was time to create something to be of service by writing something useful.
I am grateful for the abundance of people in my life. I am grateful for the time I get to create. Two things to remember: To have perspective and gratitude. Use energy to create the life you want.